Worried that I might get some sort of backlash about my post, which I do welcome, as I feel I could learn much about from anyone willing to take the time to do so. To pre-empt that which I may not deserve:
1) I am fully against the idea that a woman should ever listen to anything a man has to say. I hate gender roles and male privilege. My point that a “Nice Guy” should be re-educated was not an instruction to women, but a call for anyone - most hopefully, the misdiagnosed “Nice Guy” himself.
2) I called myself a Nice Guy once. A decade ago. This is not about me, but something I feel I - and other idiots like myself - could have benefitted from. The solipsistic life of a young dreamer, deluded by mythology, needs to be shattered and this was my approach. I wholly support the idea that I am wrong, misguided, or whatever. This essay was not an act of mysoginy or hubris. If anything, it’s a humble attempt to make reparations for my past.
3) I’m in a healthy relationship now. My final points are that the Nice Guy will learn, but it will take time and may never happen globally without action. I’d rather see it never happen, because I hate the entire ordeal on all sides for all participants. As we can see from the debate, it’s an ugly thing that hurts everyone and produces a ton of bad blood.
Please comment, but I’m sorry if I don’t retort to much. I really didn’t want a serious post, and would rather keep it light. Thanks.
